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Lust-ing Relationships and How to Avoid Them
In the age of technology, whereby the almost every individual has smart phones, personal relationships have gone one level higher or rather, decreased in level of sanctity. Instead of looking for partners to have lasting relationships, most people are looking for partners of the opposite sex to satisfy their lust. Sadly, this lust-oriented behavior is not only applicable to men but to women as well. This article will analyse deeply about the trend of these relationships.
The age of the internet has given man an easy access to any information he desires. This ease of access does not exclude pornography or sex related materials. Already aggravated by the portrayal of sex scenes in television as well as "horny" magazines, the pornographic sites on the net induces a strong sense of lust in man. Man, in the sense of humans, regardless of men or women have all been affected by this trend. The myth that only men watches pornography has long been disproved since women too, watches pornography and take pleasure in the habit. However, ever since text messaging was popularized, sex has not only been done physically on the bed, but imaginary on the phone. The future introduction of instant messaging only aggravated the situation.
Men usually seek women's profiles on social network sites in order to get to know them and they have the tendency of being attracted to those who publish their pictures so that they will know how beautiful these girls are. In this world, we tend to be stereotyped in the sense that only men does this kind of stuff. No. Women do this too. All the time. Once they get acquainted with someone on the net, the relationship will be taken to the next level. Do not be surprised at how men try to get into woman's pants after they get acquainted.
Usually, online relationships start due to mutual boredom. Mutual boredom will lead to the couples having mutual things to talk about. At first, the relationship may seem normal. At least until the first date. The first date might still be a typical date. However, with easy communications, both the man and woman can always prolong their conversations until late at night and it is not unusual for a man to have strong urges of sexual desires especially in a period of relationship. In these days, even the woman is prone to have strong sexual desires. All it takes is for the plug to be turned on. That one will depend on either the man or the woman, whoever makes the first move.
Most of the time, after this stage, couples will automatically indulge in sex as well as other physical, intimate pleasures. Some may think of the consequences of pre-marital sex and some might not. Some may use protection and some may not. The point of the matter is that, sex has become the focal point of the relationship instead of the bond of friendship, trust and care for each other. Everything depends on sex. Fights will be because of sex. Problems are resolved by sex, only to find that the next day, the problem isn't really solved. Women might say all men wants is sex. They may even get angry at times. However, deep inside, when they are calm, or if they are turned on, they will want sex as much as men do. The fact that sex has been a centre point of most relationships in this age highlights that the youth are not aware of the sanctity of sex within the constraints of marriage.
In Catholicism, the ultimate end of a marriage is the procreation of children. Hence, sex within marriage is also meant to fulfil that end besides being a way to express a deep expression of love between the husband and wife. Sex in marriage is a sign of fidelity between husband and wife. However, sex outside marriage is only for the satisfaction of lust which can lead to many problems. Among these problems are constant fights since the couple may not really have time to actually sit down and be friends. Being simple friends really helps a lot of relationship problems and contrary to popular belief, sex seldom solves the problem. It might aggravate the problem since there exists a difference in sexual behavior among men and women.
There are ways though to combat these kind of relationships. Firstly, couples should know outright that premarital sex is wrong. Wrong. Period. It is the responsibility of each partner to remind each other that sex is only meant for procreation within the boundaries of Holy Matrimony. A relationship without sex preserves not only the sanctity of marriage in the long run, but the relationship too, in the short run. Men and women will learn to understand each other better and they may find may ways to actually show affection for each other without sex. These ways such as sending flowers to the girlfriend's office speak 1000 more words than sex since it shows a deeper sense of sincerity than sex. Anyone can have sex, but those little actions we undertake to show love is worth more than sex. A woman refusing sex and having a man accepting it shows that the man loves her not because of sex. A good religious upbringing will also help to prevent premarital sex. Catholics especially, should be taught the Catechism to prevent these poor teenagers from succumbing to the temptation of lust. A deep spiritual life of meditation and prayer will most certainly help avert a young teenager's mind to something else besides sex.
As a conclusion, sex is not everything during a budding relationship. It should not be made into a focal point in a relationship as that will make it a relationship based on lust rather than love. Love brings the relationship up to a level which is very hard to break since the elements of friendship, trust and charity is strongly present. Lust only damages the relationship as it makes a relationship seem strong, yet weak. In a sense, it builds fragile relationships. Dear readers, do work hard for your relationships. Make love, not lust.
The age of the internet has given man an easy access to any information he desires. This ease of access does not exclude pornography or sex related materials. Already aggravated by the portrayal of sex scenes in television as well as "horny" magazines, the pornographic sites on the net induces a strong sense of lust in man. Man, in the sense of humans, regardless of men or women have all been affected by this trend. The myth that only men watches pornography has long been disproved since women too, watches pornography and take pleasure in the habit. However, ever since text messaging was popularized, sex has not only been done physically on the bed, but imaginary on the phone. The future introduction of instant messaging only aggravated the situation.
Men usually seek women's profiles on social network sites in order to get to know them and they have the tendency of being attracted to those who publish their pictures so that they will know how beautiful these girls are. In this world, we tend to be stereotyped in the sense that only men does this kind of stuff. No. Women do this too. All the time. Once they get acquainted with someone on the net, the relationship will be taken to the next level. Do not be surprised at how men try to get into woman's pants after they get acquainted.
Usually, online relationships start due to mutual boredom. Mutual boredom will lead to the couples having mutual things to talk about. At first, the relationship may seem normal. At least until the first date. The first date might still be a typical date. However, with easy communications, both the man and woman can always prolong their conversations until late at night and it is not unusual for a man to have strong urges of sexual desires especially in a period of relationship. In these days, even the woman is prone to have strong sexual desires. All it takes is for the plug to be turned on. That one will depend on either the man or the woman, whoever makes the first move.
Most of the time, after this stage, couples will automatically indulge in sex as well as other physical, intimate pleasures. Some may think of the consequences of pre-marital sex and some might not. Some may use protection and some may not. The point of the matter is that, sex has become the focal point of the relationship instead of the bond of friendship, trust and care for each other. Everything depends on sex. Fights will be because of sex. Problems are resolved by sex, only to find that the next day, the problem isn't really solved. Women might say all men wants is sex. They may even get angry at times. However, deep inside, when they are calm, or if they are turned on, they will want sex as much as men do. The fact that sex has been a centre point of most relationships in this age highlights that the youth are not aware of the sanctity of sex within the constraints of marriage.
In Catholicism, the ultimate end of a marriage is the procreation of children. Hence, sex within marriage is also meant to fulfil that end besides being a way to express a deep expression of love between the husband and wife. Sex in marriage is a sign of fidelity between husband and wife. However, sex outside marriage is only for the satisfaction of lust which can lead to many problems. Among these problems are constant fights since the couple may not really have time to actually sit down and be friends. Being simple friends really helps a lot of relationship problems and contrary to popular belief, sex seldom solves the problem. It might aggravate the problem since there exists a difference in sexual behavior among men and women.
There are ways though to combat these kind of relationships. Firstly, couples should know outright that premarital sex is wrong. Wrong. Period. It is the responsibility of each partner to remind each other that sex is only meant for procreation within the boundaries of Holy Matrimony. A relationship without sex preserves not only the sanctity of marriage in the long run, but the relationship too, in the short run. Men and women will learn to understand each other better and they may find may ways to actually show affection for each other without sex. These ways such as sending flowers to the girlfriend's office speak 1000 more words than sex since it shows a deeper sense of sincerity than sex. Anyone can have sex, but those little actions we undertake to show love is worth more than sex. A woman refusing sex and having a man accepting it shows that the man loves her not because of sex. A good religious upbringing will also help to prevent premarital sex. Catholics especially, should be taught the Catechism to prevent these poor teenagers from succumbing to the temptation of lust. A deep spiritual life of meditation and prayer will most certainly help avert a young teenager's mind to something else besides sex.
As a conclusion, sex is not everything during a budding relationship. It should not be made into a focal point in a relationship as that will make it a relationship based on lust rather than love. Love brings the relationship up to a level which is very hard to break since the elements of friendship, trust and charity is strongly present. Lust only damages the relationship as it makes a relationship seem strong, yet weak. In a sense, it builds fragile relationships. Dear readers, do work hard for your relationships. Make love, not lust.
